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As an advocate for natural childbirth I am very aware of the risks associated with medical interventions during childbirth and have thus always preferred seeing a midwife over an obstetrician. However for everything I've read I had never understood what the big deal was with receiving prenatal care during pregnancy from an OB. Yes, I knew I wanted to avoid OBs and hospitals during childbirth to increase my chance of a normal vaginal delivery but what about my prenatal care? What is the harm in an ultrasound every now and then or the common prenatal screening tests? My personal experience answers that question and demonstrates how a test as common as an ultrasound could lead doctors down a very dangerous and scary path.
I was beyond thrilled when I got a positive result from the home pregnancy test. Excitedly I called my OB/GYN's office right away to schedule an appointment. They scheduled me in and at the appointment they happily confirmed with an ultrasound I was 7 weeks pregnant. There was no detectable heartbeat yet, and even though I had a previous miscarriage at 8 weeks, I wasn't too concerned because it was still early. They asked me to come back in two weeks for another ultrasound to check for a heartbeat.
Sadly when I returned at 9 weeks there was still no heartbeat. I understood on an intellectual level that it was possible the pregnancy was fine and the heart just hadn't started beating; yet knowing I had previously miscarried and seeing the concerned look on the doctor's face I already started feeling a sense of failure at my inability to get past my first trimester without miscarrying.
The doctor confirmed that "yes it was possible the pregnancy was progressing fine and the heart would start beating soon." However he quickly added that he "thought it was unlikely because I was already 9 weeks pregnant." He then took some blood for tests and sent me home.
The next day he called me with the test results, which confirmed his suspicion that I was experiencing something called a missed miscarriage. This is essentially when you are no longer pregnant, but your body thinks you are and does not spontaneously abort as it would during a normal miscarriage. He told me I had two options. One was to wait for my body to dispel the contents of my uterus on its own, but that could take weeks or months. The other was to schedule a D&C which he explained is the same procedure done to abort a pregnancy. After having my first miscarriage in the Miami airport (yes it was a horrible experience but that story is for another day), I did not want to wait around for the inevitable event to occur on its own.
I agreed to schedule the D&C for that Friday which was 2 days away. I won't even get into how profoundly sad I was at losing another baby. I just wanted the failed pregnancy out of my body so I could move on with my life.
My husband came with me to the doctor's office early Friday morning for the D&C which was going to be performed by another OB in the practice. She looked over my records, agreed with the diagnosis that based on my high hormone levels, the date of my last period and the missing heartbeat this was indeed a missed miscarriage, and then explained how the procedure would work.
I don't know why but I asked her if she wouldn't mind doing one more ultrasound before performing the D&C. Maybe I wanted to say goodbye to my baby. She agreed and a few minutes later the doctor, the nurse, my husband and I were all staring wide mouthed at a thumping little circle on a fuzzy black and white screen. There it was. A beautiful heartbeat. I was speechless. The nurse cried. The doctor was amazed. We were all so happy. We rejoiced together. I left the office and practically skipped the whole way home. I couldn't believe I was still pregnant!
It wasn't until later did I realize what an egregious mistake the doctors' office had made. Two separate doctors had told me without doubt that I was not pregnant based on numbers they read off of a chart. What if the D&C was scheduled a day earlier and the heartbeat hadn't started yet? I would have lost a perfectly normal pregnancy! And the belief that I had miscarried again would have left deep wounds.
Luckily my story has a happy ending. I delivered a healthy baby girl about 8 months later!! But 3 years later the experience still shakes me up when I think about it. And what did I learn?
So what's a newly pregnant woman to do? I am NOT suggesting you turn down ultrasounds and screening tests. These are important tools in prenatal care. I DO recommend seeing a midwife or an obstetrician who practices the midwifery model of care. Practitioners who follow the medical model of care look for something to go wrong; and they often find it. The midwifery model looks at pregnancy as a normal life process and offers individualized care.
It is important to take responsibility for yourself and that means making the effort to find a care provider that you trust. With both my pregnancies I switched from seeing an OB to a midwife at about 20 weeks and could not have been happier with the level of care I received and the outcomes of both deliveries.
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Adrienne Shulman is the founder of TinyPlayground.com, a website which provides practical resources for new moms and home to the popular cute baby contest. She has two daughters ages 1 and 3 and lives outside of New York City in Westchester county.
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