How to Handle the Ring of Fire During Your Natural Birth

I’ve been through childbirth 8 time - and after the first couple of babies, I started looking into how to handle the ring of fire during a natural birth with as little pain as possible! I discovered some techniques that helped me push out babies with far less pain - including a 10lb 10oz baby boy.

Using perineal massage and conditioning during pregnancy can reduce or prevent the “ring of fire” during your baby’s birth. During the birth itself use position changes and breathing to slow pushing down and prevent pain. You should avoid holding your breath and coaching pushing, if possible, because these often make the ring of fire much worse.

What Causes the Ring of Fire During Labor
(Plus How to Deal With It)

Labor is a complex process that doctors and midwives divide into roughly three stages:

  • Dilation and Effacement: when your cervix opens and pulls back and the uterus (a muscle) thickens at the top so all the muscle tissue helps push your baby out. Your baby moves fully into the birthing position during this stage.
  • Pushing: when your uterus begins to push the baby down and out through the birth canal. The peak of this stage is called “crowning” and this is when the ring of fire begins.
  • Birth of the Placenta: the third and final stage is when the placenta separates from the wall of the uterus and is pushed out after the baby.

The “ring of fire” happens during the crowning portion of the pushing phase. At this point your baby is almost born - his or her head is just inside the entrance to the birth canal (the vaginal opening). Your skin begins to stretch to let the baby’s head out. The area surrounding the birth canal is called your perineum.


“Crowning” traditionally meant when the baby’s head applied enough pressure to create an opening the size of an old British crown (coin) - and sometimes stinging sensations start at that point.

Your body continues to open until the skin stretches around your baby’s head like a crown on a queen - this is what most people consider “crowning” today. This is the point at which many women feel burning and stinging. You may feel another stinging sensation when your baby’s shoulders are born, then it’s usually over (the placenta doesn’t generally sting or hurt at all).

Traditionally, this is when an episiotomy is done because the skin is so stretched that a woman cannot feel the scissors cut the skin. We know today, however, that an episiotomy is not recommended - and there’s a lot you can do to ease the ring of fire and prevent tears during birth.

It's Possible to Have NO Ring of Fire!

As with handling transition there are steps to take during pregnancy to prepare for pushing - doing these can mean no ring of fire, like I discovered with some of my births. Here’s a clip from my 6th baby’s birth - pushing him out was so gentle and painless that nobody else realized he was being born:

Before your baby’s birth you can:

  • Do perineal massage
  • Do the Internal Work from Birthing Better (my top recommendation, more info below)
  • Condition yourself to relax even with lots of pressure in your pelvic area
  • Discover how to breathe through intense contractions

Here are some steps to take during pushing:

  • Consider birthing in water
  • Consider perineal support (don’t miss my pros and cons on this, though)
  • Use breathing techniques that really work
  • Keep your mouth soft and open (this has a direct impact on your pelvic area)
  • AVOID coached pushing if at all possible
  • AVOID holding your breath
  • Touch your baby’s head
  • Birth in positions that lessen pressure on your perineum 

Remember, the ring of fire occurs right before your baby is born - so you are almost there! It may last for a few contractions, but these techniques will help you get through it - and to having your baby in your arms!

(NOTE: Want a Perfect Birth Plan Template? Use this template and step-by-step videos to write a birth plan that gets your birth team on your side for a beautiful birth experience! Get the kit here.)

Handle Labor Pain

What to do Before Labor to Prevent the Ring of Fire 

There are three strategies to use during pregnancy to help prevent or lessen the “ring of fire” experience while pushing your baby out. I’ll talk about two in this section and devote a full section to the third. Let’s start out with two simple strategies that work. I covered these in the post on handling transition during a natural birth, so they’ll feel familiar if you already started on those tips!

Condition Yourself to Relax

First, condition yourself to relax your whole pelvic area. This is my #1 tip and it’s what helped me birth my baby with no pain during pushing (see the video above). Every time you go to the bathroom, practice relaxing your pelvic area.

 You can do it with #1, since you’re probably in the bathroom all the time. But also practice with #2 (even if you’re dealing with some pregnancy constipation). The pressure of your baby coming down honestly feels a lot like needing to have a bowel movement, so conditioning yourself to relax against that pressure really pays off.

I like to use a cue word - “soften” is a good word, or “peace” (“peace” is the cue word I learned in Hypnobabies) Take some time to relax your whole body and slow your breathing, then feel your pelvic tissues soften, too.

You can start by clenching everything down there up - this helps you figure out exactly which muscles to release and keep soft during bathroom trips. Say your cue word and then work on releasing your muscles from your forehead down, but focus most especially on you pelvic area.

Do this every time you go to the bathroom and your body becomes conditioned to it.

Talk with your birth partner about it, too. When you’re in the most intense parts of birthing your baby, you won’t talk much. Your birth partner should know your cue word and strategies to help you. They can (calmly) remind you of your cue word and encourage you during pushing.

Breathing (the right way) Really is Key for the Ring of Fire

Second, work on breathing. Like with relaxation, conditioning is key here. Practice breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.

A great tip for practicing to is to hold ice cubes in your hands while you practice. Or, have your partner hold them behind your ear. It is REALLY difficult to keep your body soft and relaxed and keep your breath calm when someone does this! It’s also a fun way to “practice” keeping calm in a tense situation. This tip is from Pam England’s book Birthing From Within, a classic pregnancy read.

Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth while keeping your jaw open and relaxed has a direct effect on your pelvic muscles - it helps keep them soft and open, making it easier for your baby to come through.

Practice this breathing anytime you feel winded or short of breath. It’s also good to notice how you breathe when you’re calm and relaxed, when you’re stressed or angry, when you’re excited, etc. Being aware of your breath helps you use it when you need to handle the ring of fire during natural birth!

Additional Pregnancy Tips

Evidence also suggests that an excellent pregnancy diet helps reduce perineal trauma - as does having an active sex life during pregnancy (Dieb et al., 2019)!

The Evidence for Perineal Massage

The perineal tissues are the tissues (skin) surrounding the opening of the birth canal (the vagina). “The perineum” is the area of skin between the opening of the birth canal and the anus, and it’s where the pressure of the baby’s head will center. All tissues surround the opening of the birth canal stretch for the baby, however, so perineal massage techniques tend to work with the perineum and the skin on the sides of the birth canal

Evidence suggests that perineal massage makes a difference during birth, especially for first-time moms(Beckmann & Stock, 2013). Doing it during pregnancy reduces tearing and helps with pelvic healing after birth. It can also help reduce the “ring of fire” effect while you’re birthing your baby.

Some mamas feel timid about doing perineal massage because it involves touching the perineum and even just inside the birth canal. This can feel really intense, and even scary for women who may have a history of abuse. Recent research in Japan showed that understanding perineal massage and having the encouragement of a midwife or childbirth educator can help women overcome shyness and use perineal massage (TAKEUCHI & HORIUCHI, 2014).

If you are a survivor of sexual abuse, talk to your doctor or midwife about getting support to prepare for birth - it can make a huge difference to have that support during a natural birth experience.

Based on research, 1-2 a week is optimal for perineal massage.

How to do Perineal Massage

This handout from the NHS gives detailed, step-by-step instructions for perineal massage. This brochure from the Auckland District Health Board has color illustrations that may be helpful.

I used Birthing Better’s form of perineal massage - called the “Internal Work” to help prepare for my babies. Birthing Better has an mp3 track that guides you through the Internal Work, which was much easier for me to use than trying to use a handout! 

The Internal Work is part of the collection of techniques to make labor and delivery smoother - for me they really paid off, as you saw in the video of Corwin’s birth above! Click here to read about the Internal work and cue words helped during Corwin’s birth.

The Pros and Cons of Perineal Support

Many midwives use perineal support of some type. They either put their hands or warm compresses over the skin of the perineum to provide support as the baby’s head is crowning and being born.

The evidence on these techniques is mixed. There appears to be some evidence that these methods reduce more severe tears (tears are rated on a scale of 1 to 4, with 4 being the most severe) of level 3 and 4 (Aasheim et al., 2017). But they don’t stop smaller tears.

In fact, some evidence supports that perineal massage may increase the risk of tearing in mamas who are having a second or later baby - an Australian study showed no help or harm for first-time mamas, but all other mamas had an increase in tearing and injury to the perineum (Lee et al., 2018). Rachel Reed covers more information on perineal support and episiotomy in her detailed blog post Perineal Protectors.

Bringing Your Own Baby Up

Here’s a personal thought that comes from having 8 babies, the last 5 of whom I birthed and brought up to my chest in my own hands - with no tearing (I didn’t tear with any of my babies). I feel that part of natural birth is being able to fully experience what’s happening, and I reached down and instinctively felt my baby’s heads as they were being born. 

Having an attendant’s hands down there would have gotten in the way. Having my hand there gave me a connection to my baby and helped me push at the right rate for my baby and myself. It is one of my favorite ways to handle the ring of fire during a natural birth!!!

I’ve talked with many women at this point, and many find they reach down to support their own perineum and make that first touch connection with their baby - to me, this is natural, and powerful <3

Birthing Positions to Handle the Ring of Fire

Birthing positions are important when you want to handle the ring of fire during natural birth because some of the positions actually increase the chance of tearing and intensity of the ring of fire.

AVOID these positions:

  • Flat on your back
  • Leaning back with your feet in stirrups (yes, this is the “standard” position - and it’s not a good one!)
  • Fully squatting 

Are you surprised I just recommended against a squat? Many women think it’s the “natural” way to give birth, but it puts immense pressure on the perineum and causes skin to stretch. Now, if you’ve grown up in a culture where squatting is the norm and you do it all the time, your skin is likely used to it and more supple. But for most women, it’s not the best position to birth in.

Here are positions that reduce tearing and help you handle the ring of fire during a natural birth:

  • Lying on your side (usually the left side, with someone holding your leg for you)
  • Hands and knees
  • Semi-squat
  • Semi-kneeling or kneeling

Side-lying is a great position because you’re able to fully relax between contractions. Your partner or a birth attendant can hold your leg up at a comfortable angle while you push. This a good position for mother-directed, slower pushing and to relieve pressure on your tissues, which helps you handle the ring of fire during a natural birth.

Hands-and-knees is often an instinctive position and works well for birth attendants, too. Attendants get a very clear view of the birth, but like side-lying, there’s much less pressure on the perineum. 

You also have a lot of flexibility to move your body with the contractions, which helps some mamas. A disadvantage of this position is that it’s often difficult to use your own hands to touch your baby’s head or guide your baby out.

A semi-squat or semi-kneeling position is a great way to birth your baby. It’s a more upright position that gives you a lot of control. Because one knee is down, there’s a lot less pressure on your perineum and you can easily adjust to help slow things down. This position is how I’ve birthed my last 5 babies.

Kneeling is a variation of the above that works well - both knees are down and you can more easily control pressure and tension on your perineum by adjusting how far apart your knees are.

Final Tips for Handling the Ring of Fire During a Natural Birth

I’m a firm believer in the work you do during pregnancy to prepare yourself to relax and breathe through the intensity of pushing. Here are a couple more tips:

Mother-Directed Pushing: Don’t go with coached pushing. Sometimes first-time mamas need a little help understanding how to push. Your midwife or doctor can place one or two fingers on your perineum and tell you “push to here” - which generally helps immediately increase the effectiveness of pushing. 

You can push when your body pushes (your uterus is going to push down regardless of what you do to help it!). You don’t have to push with your breath held - coached pushing can lead to more pain and lower umbilical cord oxygen levels for babies (Vaziri et al., 2016).

The Fetal Ejection Reflex is something you may hear talked about - when the body pushes the baby out on its own. This is highly likely during a natural birth where hormonal flow hasn’t been interrupted. But sometimes first-time mamas still have to push to help the baby out - just push on your own terms.

Consider Water Birth: Water offers a gentle counter-pressure on the soft tissues as the baby descends. It also supports all of your weight and your baby’s weight, reducing fatigue and helping you better control the rate of pushing. Water birth is very safe for your baby and offers many benefits during both labor and pushing (Bailey et al., 2019; Carlsson & Ulfsdottir, 2020; Clews et al., 2019; Neiman et al., 2020).

Related Questions

What does the ring of fire feel like during birth? The ring of fire actually feels like a major stretching sensation with a lot of stinging and burning. It generally eases between contractions, but it’s sometimes intense at the peak of contractions.

How long does the ring of fire last? The ring of fire starts when the baby’s head reaches crowning and it usually ends after the shoulders are born. It can last from 1-5 contractions, or 2-20 minutes or so. It’s usually not continuous during that time, because it eases between contractions.

How do you stop the ring of fire in childbirth? I’ve covered a number of techniques to use during pregnancy, but the best way to stop the ring of fire during labor and birth is to change positions. This can be hard during pushing - but try to move to your side, hands and knees, or kneeling to reduce the pressure and birth your baby gently.

Gentle birth is the best way to handle the ring of fire during a natural birth - you can do it, mama <3

(NOTE: Want a Perfect Birth Plan Template? Use this template and step-by-step videos to write a birth plan that gets your birth team on your side for a beautiful birth experience! Get the kit here.)

Handle Labor Pain
Collage of mothers getting through the ring of fire


  1. 1
    Aasheim, V., Nilsen, A. B. V., Reinar, L. M., & Lukasse, M. (2017). Perineal techniques during the second stage of labour for reducing perineal trauma. Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews
  2. 2
    Bailey, J. M., Zielinski, R. E., Emeis, C. L., & Kane Low, L. (2019). A retrospective comparison of waterbirth outcomes in two United States hospital settings. Birth, 98–104.
  3. 3
    Beckmann, M. M., & Stock, O. M. (2013). Antenatal perineal massage for reducing perineal trauma. Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews
  4. 4
    Carlsson, T., & Ulfsdottir, H. (2020). Waterbirth in low‐risk pregnancy: An exploration of women’s experiences. Journal of Advanced Nursing, 1221–1231.
  5. 5
    Clews, C., Church, S., & Ekberg, M. (2019). Women and waterbirth: A systematic meta-synthesis of qualitative studies. Women and Birth
  6. 6
    Dieb, A. S., Shoab, A. Y., Nabil, H., Gabr, A., Abdallah, A. A., Shaban, M. M., & Attia, A. H. (2019). Perineal massage and training reduce perineal trauma in pregnant women older than 35 years: a randomized controlled trial. International Urogynecology Journal, 613–619.
  7. 7
    Lee, N., Firmin, M., Gao, Y., & Kildea, S. (2018). Perineal injury associated with hands on/hands poised and directed/undirected pushing: A retrospective cross-sectional study of non-operative vaginal births, 2011–2016. International Journal of Nursing Studies, 11–17.
  8. 8
    Neiman, E., Austin, E., Tan, A., Anderson, C. M., & Chipps, E. (2020). Outcomes of Waterbirth in a US Hospital‐Based Midwifery Practice: A Retrospective Cohort Study of Water Immersion During Labor and Birth. Journal of Midwifery & Women’s Health, 216–223.
  9. 9
    TAKEUCHI, S., & HORIUCHI, S. (2014). Why don’t pregnant women practice antenatal perineal massage?: Journal of Japan Academy of Midwifery, 173–182.
  10. 10
    Vaziri, F., Arzhe, A., Asadi, N., Pourahmad, S., & Moshfeghy, Z. (2016). Spontaneous Pushing in Lateral Position versus Valsalva Maneuver During Second Stage of Labor on Maternal and Fetal Outcomes: A Randomized Clinical Trial. Iranian Red Crescent Medical Journal
Mom yells through ring of fire during a natural birth
Mom holding baby after handling the ring of fire
Mom getting support during the ring of fire

About the author 


Kristen is childbirth educator, student midwife, and a mama to 8 - all born naturally! She has spent years helping mamas have healthy babies, give birth naturally, and enjoy the adventure of motherhood. Find her on her website and helping families through her online childbirth class

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

{"email":"Email address invalid","url":"Website address invalid","required":"Required field missing"}